More than just and "aha" moment, more than just a light bulb moment, it felt like I'd been hit be a lightning bolt.
Everyone who knows me knows that the one thing I am very passionate about is that I think everyone needs to live their lives exactly the way they want to. No excuses, no explanations, no need to apologize for or justify anything. It’s your life, not anyone else’s.
But I wasn’t always this passionate about it. It wasn’t until 4 years ago that I had more than just and “aha” moment, bigger than a light bulb moment. It was like I’d been hit by a lightning bolt. I was 39 years old and going through a rough time in my marriage. As I was sitting there one day, thinking about my future, I suddenly thought of my dad.
You see, in 2001 my dad suddenly passed away at the young age of 54. So, here I was in 2010 at the age of 39 thinking, “There is no way that at the age of 39 my dad ever would have thought he only had 15 years left to live”. That’s when it hit me. You only get one shot at life, so you damn well better do it the way you want. It was from that point forward that I decided that I was going to live my life to exactly the way I wanted. Whether I live to be 100 or to only 54 like my dad, I will know that there are no regrets.
For so many years I had lived my life "by the rules", making sure not to disappoint anyone or do something "wrong". I'm very much a perfectionist so the idea of screwing something up and having people upset with me, or even worse, laugh at me, was a terrible thought. But it was also a terrible way to live my life, too. I was doing everything based on other people's expectations, not based on my own thoughts, ideas and inner passions.
So, although my dad isn’t physically here to share these things with me, I feel like he was the catalyst for my success. I feel like I am honouring his memory by living my life my way.
I want to hear from you. What has been your catalyst to change?