A girl on a mission can sometimes feel rather lonely. You are on fire, on a mission to do great things with your life and to make an impact on the world. Not many people are on that mission. Not many people have the guts to take on something so big.
I am one of those women on a mission and I know how lonely it can feel at times. My family and friends don’t get it. They have their own path that they are on, whether it’s a path of their choosing or not. But none of them really have any burning desire to do anything huge in the world. And that’s okay. Everyone has their own idea of what success means to them.
Being a leader means that you have the ability to teach, motivate and inspire others. When you are a leader, it’s often challenging to find other leaders who have the same fiery passions that you have; leaders who are serving people in a big way and making a big impact on the world, leaders you can lean on for your own support and encouragement.
We all have high profile people we admire and look up to. For me it’s women like Arlene Dickinson and Oprah. It would be awesome to become friends with Arlene and Oprah and be mentored by them but right at the moment they are beyond my reach. That doesn’t mean I won’t ever have that opportunity but for now, I need to look a little closer to home. We all need to have that support so take a look around at the women who are closer to you.
For me personally, there really aren’t any female leaders in our community that I look up to. However, I have met and connected with leaders at conferences and in select online groups. These are the kind of women I want to have in my life. They are doing big things with their lives, their careers, the communities they serve and the organizations they are a part of. You can do the same. Look for women who are where you want to be and don’t be afraid to reach out.
Being a leader may sometimes seem lonely, especially when the people closest to you don’t share your vision, and the high profile leaders are out of your reach at the moment. But I’ve learned a few things about dealing with the loneliness.
1. Be okay with who you are. Sometimes you will have days where it seems like it’s you against the world. Learning to be okay with being alone is not a bad thing. It won’t last forever and that time alone is often when the best self-reflection happens.
2. Surround yourself with a few key people who love and support you and are rooting for your success as much as they are their own. These can be people who are a step or two ahead of where you are or 5 steps ahead. Seek out people who are like-minded but are not so far ahead that they aren’t relatable.
3. Keep going. Even when you feel like it’s just you on this mission, keep going. Let your passion and your true purpose move you towards your goals. Remember that there aren’t many people who have the guts to do what you’re doing. And that’s why you are the leader that you are.
So, just because you’ve got big dreams, goals and visions and you might feel like you’re going at it alone trust me when I say that you are not alone. You have the support you need if you just look for it.