Sometimes it feels like you just can’t seem to move forward with your life. You have a vague idea of what you want, but you just can’t seem to figure out how to get there. Part of the problem is that as women, we figure that we can do it all. We’re great at multi-tasking (at least we’d like to think we are!) and letting go of control can sometimes be very difficult to do (especially for picky Virgos like me!!). But I’m here to tell you that can’t do it all. If you want to move forward in your life, knowing that you are on the path to great success, then you’re going to need to ask for help and make it happen. Here are 4 reasons why you can’t do it alone and what you can do about it.
1. You can’t see what’s behind the door. Sometimes we get to a place in our lives where it seems like a very dark place and although there are opportunities to escape, you’re afraid to open that door because you don’t know what’s behind it. That fear of thinking that maybe behind that door there is something really scary. What I want you to do is take a leap of faith and open the door. It just might turn out to be absolutely incredible. So, the first thing you need to have is a belief that everything will be exactly the way they should be and all of your dreams and passions will happen. Just believe that when you put your desires out there and work to make them happen, the universe steps in and hands you exactly what you’ve been asking for.
2. You’re hanging with the wrong crowd. Jim Rohn is quoted as saying, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” We are greatly influenced by the people who we spend the most time with, whether we realize it or not. I’m not telling you to get rid of all of your friends or file for divorce. It just means that that you might want to consider who to have in our circle. These five people will influence and affect you in your life and your business. So, it stands to reason that if you’re hanging around negative, broke-thinking people, you’ll get negative, broke results. Unless you decide to change that. Join a networking group where you can connect with other like-minded women, spend time with your friends who are supportive and encouraging, and just start making a conscious effort to surround yourself with people who will bring you up instead of pushing you down.
3. You don’t have a positive role model. Not only do you need to have supportive people in your life, but you also need to have someone you look up to as a positive role model and mentor. Your mentor can be someone who is still alive and you may have the chance to meet them and work with them. It may be someone who’s already passed away but you are able to continue to bring their influence into your life by reading their books, watching their videos and listening to them on CD. The two women I look up to the most are Arlene Dickinson and Denise Duffield-Thomas. There are others as well and I follow some very influential men, too. But right now these are the two women I most admire, look up to and learn from. Learn from these women and find your own mentors to learn about they achieved their level of success. If they can do it, so can you.
4. You’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed and not sure what to do next. Learning from your mentors is one thing, but sometimes you need somebody to light a fire under you and point you in the right direction. That’s where having a coach you really connect with and trust can set you up on the path to greatness. A good coach will not simply tell you what to do and how to do it. A good coach will ask the tough questions, make you think in ways you’ve never done before and help guide you through the work you need to do to achieve all of your goals. Because as much we don't want to admit it, we need to let go of the control and realize that asking for help is not only a good thing, but it is essential to our future.
In order to be successful in life, whatever your definition of success is, you need to be constantly working on your personal development. And that means allowing other people to help you out. The more you learn about yourself the more authentic you will be in both your business and personal relationships, which in turn brings in exactly the right customers and friends and partners.